Forgiveness is a gift from God. He does not have to forgive you but chooses to do so. It is a sign of His Love, Mercy and Grace. Because He forgives us He expects us to forgive others.
If we truly want to be like Him you will forgive others their offences against you.
Remember what Jesus said to those that tortured and killed Him.
"Father forgive them because they know not what they do".
Forgiveness is not Dependant on the person you are forgiving wanting to do what is correct or because the person did not know what they did was wrong.
They are the easy ones to forgive. But what about those that do not repent of offending you? Who continue to oppress or offend you?
Jesus said we are still to forgive them (Matt 1822).
Remember it is not their attitudes that are judged by Jesus but ours so that we need to express His attitudes regardless of the attitudes of others.
There are many people in hell who lived a good Christian life but would not forgive someone so the Father could not forgive them or He would be a hypocrite overlooking their sin of unforgiveness but not that of others.
Character of The Kingdom
Forgiveness is part of the character of a person of The Kingdom
Forgiveness should be part of the Character of a citizen of The Kingdom of God and a person who does not want to forgive cannot be a citizen of The Kingdom because they are deliberately not living according to one of its principles.
They are rejecting the Authority of the King over them in this area.
This is one reason unforgiveness knowingly not given to another sends you to hell because you are not following Jesus so are not of His Kingdom.
Remember that forgiveness is a mark of God's Love and should be a natural expression of your Christian life.
Once we have become Christians we no longer have to earn forgiveness or acceptance through sacrifices or offerings to God as this is now found in Jesus and what He has done at Calvary.
(1 Cor 1:30 KJV) But of him are ye in Christ Jesus, who of God is made unto us wisdom, and righteousness, and sanctification, and redemption:
We no longer need to confess our sins to obtain forgiveness or be justified again. The Christian life is not forgiveness by installments. We are forgiven of all that we have done, are doing or will do wrong. That was done on the cross! Confession is now an admission of weakness and repentance from wrong things to the things of God.
Confession then is an acknowledgment (agreement) with God that we have weaknesses we need to deal with, and that God in His love does not reject us but encourages us to keep going and overcome all that opposes us and to forgive them when appropriate.. While we must try to do what is right, we are not expected to always succeed to do what is right! This is because we are not perfect like God and will make mistakes.
The word 'perfect' in this usage means 'maturity'. So when we are told in Matt 5:48:
Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
It really means to be mature in all you do like God is in all he does. We cannot be perfect but we can do things to a high standard that approaches perfection, and which for earthly purposes is perfection.
Obedience then becomes an act of Love to God, who will never reject you or make you do anything to obtain forgiveness, but who accepts you as you are and will not lay any burden upon you other than that of loving others as He loved you and loves them!
That is why He said;
(John 14:15 NKJV) "If you love Me, keep My commandments.
We are told in Luke 17:3 to forgive those that offend you:
Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.
Forgiveness is an attitude waiting to express itself to someone who repents. You must always be willing to forgive but can only be reconciled if they come to you and repent of what they did to you. They might repent to you but really it is to Jesus as He is the one who was really disobeyed. What they do when they come to you is to remove the offence they have caused against you so God can now accept what they offer Him.
The aim of t he forgiveness you offer th em is really to make peace with them. God is a peacemaker and expects you to be one also where possible.
This attitude of being willing to forgive stops things like anger, bitterness, resentment and other wrong attitudes being expressed and from polluting you.
This is why in your heart you must forgive others their offences against you and declare this when they repent.
God chooses to forgive us and unless we love as He loves and forgive others in this love we do not go to heaven.
How often are we to forgive?
Matt 18:21-22 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
What Jesus was saying here was not to count how often you forgive but that you have to always forgive. Seventy times Seven was more than most cold comprehend in those days so in a sense Jesus was placing no limit on forgiveness. This makes sense when you consider that any deliberate, unrepented unforgiveness will cost you your salvation.
So how often are we to forgive? Every time we are offended.
If you forgive another you will reconcile with them.
Reasons for deliberately not reconciling:
Fear of the person
You still have anger against them
You do not realise you need to reconcile
If you do not realise you need to forgive them it is not a sin. It is deliberately doing what is wrong that is a sin.
I was challenged to not cause offence to anyone and to show only God's Love in all I do.
I was puzzled as you can cause offence to those you correct or guide in accordance with The Bible.
Then I got the necessary insight.
We represent Jesus so when we do His will if anyone is offended then they are offended by Him as we are only the messenger. The exception to this is when we do not do things in love, humility and meekness and thus promote ourselves as having some part in the decision to correct instead of just being bearers of the Will of Jesus.
So how do we offend?
Correcting others or disciplining others from our own reasonings and not what Jesus says should be done.
Not correcting in meekness and humility
Not showing God's Love in all we do and thus causing a person to be hurt in some way.
You can only be offended by someone according to how much you want to be offended. A person whose worth is in what Jesus thinks of them is very hard to offend as they do not need to protect their worth but leave it to Jesus to defend them.
Offence to another
Offence is either intended or accidental:
If intended you are doing it to maintain a wrong attitude because God's quality of love does not cause offence and God cannot acceptant gift or ministry you do until you reconcile with the person you have offended or have been offended by. If there is unforgiveness you risk going to hell as well.
If unintentional then it is because of a wrong way of thinking but not necessarily a lack of love. God does not stop your gift being accepted as the offence was not done deliberately
You must try and reconcile even if the other person does not want to. At least you will do what God wants so that he can accept your ministry and gifts to Him.
This is the result of an inability or unwillingness to forgive. This indicates a need for deliverance otherwise you may lose your salvation through the unforgiveness associated with it.
Why is confession necessary?
It says to God "I failed because of a weakness I have. I did not mean to hurt you as I love you and don't want to cause you grief of any kind".
It removes a wrong attitude or thought pattern from the mind which demons can use to form incorrect ways of thinking and reinforces wrong attitudes and habits because you recieve help to know how to fight it and support and encouragement in dealing with it..
It allows deliverance so the mind can be restored by removing the mental poison these wrong thoughts and attitudes have placed there providing there is no unforgiveness or bitterness of any type in you.
It restores our communication with God by changing our focus from us back towards Jesus so we can hear the Holy Spirit more clearly.
Through deliverance hurts in us are healed which allows the Holy Spirit to remove incorrect attitudes or ways of thinking and `heal' the mind so it is able to more clearly think and stop Satan using the pain and memories associated with our past hurts.
It shows we are children of the Kingdom of the Father and want to do the right thing by God - i.e., obey Him.
It keeps us humble and reinforces our perspective of God (how we relate to Him and His Love.)
There is a difference between those who want to do better but can't seem to - no matter how hard they try (which usually means deliverance is necessary), and those who enjoy their wrongdoing and don't want to do the right thing - even when faced with the truth of what is right (these need to repent).
This is why a hypocrite cannot be heard by God as he has turned his back on God and, by choice, ignores some of the rules of the Kingdom of God. The danger of hypocrisy is a seared conscience. The person also is in constant rebellion and is in danger of Hell fire.
Job 13:16 He also shall be my salvation: for an hypocrite shall not come before him.
Job 27:8 For what is the hope of the hypocrite, though he hath gained, when God taketh away his soul?
The life of Grace, resulting from knowing our sins have been dealt with fully by Jesus, and that the relationship with God can never be lost, is a life of freedom. The Mosaic Law and its rules are no longer a burden to obey but have been replaced by Love for Jesus and what He has done
(Act 15:1-21). Life is then loving obedience to Jesus and the Will of the Father under the guidance of the Holy Spirit and not a continual performance of rules. This type of love meets all God's requirements and fulfills the Laws of the Old and New Testaments.
There is no longer a need to prove anything to anyone as God is your Judge and He has forgiven you all the wrongs you have done against Him and accepts you as you are requiring only you to obey Him in loving service - not ritualistic legalism based on a set of rules! If people do not accept you it is their problem and they are not rejecting you but Jesus whose rules you are following.
(John 3:16 - 17NKJV) "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.
One of the hardest things a person can do at times is to forgive themselves. This is often because they do not believe God loves them and will forgive them. This lie of the devil needs to be rebuked and the truth, that God accepts you as you are, and not as you think you should be, should be confessed and Satan told to go in Jesus Name asking The Holy Spirit to take his place.
Is Confession for sin Necessary?
1 Jn 3:4 says that sin is the transgression of The Law.
The only Law of the New Testament (which we are now under) is the Law of Love (Jn 13:34-35). So whenever you do not show love to another (and there is a really only one type of love we are to show - that of God which we are to try and imitate) we fail God's requirements of us and sin
Do we need to confess our sins?
The short answer is No!
Jesus never said that He came for the purposes of forgiving son. He said that He came for the purposes of remitting sin.
Matt 26:28 "For this is my blood of the new testament, which is shed for many for the remission of sins."
Mark 1:4 John did baptize in the wilderness, and preach the baptism of repentance for the remission of sins.
Luke 24:47 And that repentance and remission of sins should be preached in his name among all nations, beginning at Jerusalem.
The atonement of the Old testament enabled man to approach God as a sacrifice for sin had been made on his behalf. This still left defilement of sin which stopped people entering heaven.
When Jesus died at Calvary God remitted all sin. Jesus took all sin on Himself and died suffering the punishment of your sins for you and for all who ever lived. Jesus satisfied God in taking on Himself the punishment for your sins and so there is no more punishment for sin necessary as Jesus met it all at Calvary.
This means God no longer considers us to have sinned or be defiled by sin if we follow Jesus as Lord as Jesus redeemed us with His death. His death met the requirement of God's punishment for all sin and through His death Jesus ransomed us so we are His if we follow Him as Lord as in a sense He owns all mankind having purchased us through His Blood shed at Calvary.
The Father looks at us and sees the sacrifice and punishment of Jesus so that He does not see in us sin or the need to punish us for these as He sees these on Jesus at Calvary! This is why Jesus must be Lord before He can be Redeemer!
Because The Father sees you without sin there is nothing for you to confess, and as he does not consider you defiled by sin you can enter the Kingdom of God and are able to have The Holy Spirit in you to guide you and help you in following Jesus in your Christian walk.
As God does not see sin in us there is no more guilt, shame or condemnation. Before God there is nothing to be guilty or ashamed of, or condemned for so any of these we feel comes from Satan and his demons and should be sent to The Throne of Judgment be dealt with by Jesus.
If we truly love Jesus as our Lord we will not disobey Him, and will repent (turn away) of a what we are doing wrong.
Sin requires a knowledge that what you are doing is wrong so that it is a deliberate rebellion. Even then repentance restores fellowship as long as you have not blasphemed The Holy Spirit.
Sin can only occur when you deliberately do something you know is wrong. James says in ch. 4:17 that doing something you know is wrong (in the eyes of God) is sin.
God does not judge you for thoughts or actions you do not realise are sins but for those you knowingly do wrong.
Sins is only against what God wants you to do and not against what man or denominations say you to do unless it is for the a legal requirement of the land and even then what they ask must not be in disobedience to God's Will or His Principles.
Deliberate rebellion against God while will be expressed in some of the following ways:
Lukewarmness in a matter God wants you to act in
Breaking The Law of Love
Unforgiveness of another
Not desiring to reconcile to another
Breaking any laws of the land that do not infringe on the Law or Principles of God!
Breaking the principles of God in The Bible
While the Mosaic law no longer applies (Acts 15) The Principles of God as expressed in the Bible must be adhered too and obeyed.
What about James 5:16:
James 5:16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
Some translations have 'sins' instead of 'faults'. This is wrong as God does not see sin in us and we cannot confess something God says we do not have!
This verse deals with weaknesses we have so that deliverance can be prayed for us in these areas of weakness.
As weaknesses of faith or character are dealt with the sins that use to result from these will no longer occur. This is what God desires for us that we are free from the hurt behind the weaknesses in us and this is what James 5:16 is all about.
Jesus died for us to free us from sin and its defilement so that all we need to do is repent, confess our weaknesses, obtain deliverance for it and then to continue on in our Christian walk as His servant.
Calvary is a sign of God's Grace and Love for us and of the freedom we know have from guilt, shame or condemnation if Jesus is truly our Lord!
If you know you should forgive others or be reconciled to t hem and deliberately do not do this you will go to hell Jesus said.
Because God forgave us all our sins at Calvary there is no longer a need to confess them to Him. However we must admit our faults but not the sins that result so that we can obtain help: either deliverance, counselling or just moral support to deal with them. Anyone who says we have to confess our sins to another does not believe in the total redemption Jesus obtained for us at Calvary and will also add to that we need to do to have salvation. They are a cult and do not believe what The Bible says.
Remember not to condemn them as that is the right only of Jesus and they may not realise it is wrong and so are not sinning before God in this.
Just because a person does something The Bible says is wrong does not mean they a.fe sinning. It has to be deliberate disobedience and not a disobedience through not understanding or knowing what The Bible says.